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stop me if you've heard this one already
children of dune - leto 1
So right, it's been a couple of weeks since homophobic school administrators in Mississippi were dicks to a lesbian student, and I think they were feeling like, you know, worried people might not remember that there are people that live in that state that are assholes? But how, they asked themselves, mystified, can we top those bastions of homophobic light that fucked up the senior prom for Constance McMillen? That's a level of pettiness that can't easily be reached, but by God and every badly misinterpreted Bible quote, they will find a way, and it will be mindbogglingly stupid.

There's the senior yearbook! It's like, genius. Or something.

School Cuts Gay Student From Yearbook. Contact information can be found here.

Okay, just...no, I'm not even going to try on this one.

Dear assholes,

You'll never regret this. You will never see what you did was petty, stupid, and wrong on levels usually reserved for third grade girls and being excluded from a slumberparty. So, stick to those principles! Be loud about it and proudly refuse to back down an inch. You know, in court.

Have fun with that.


Change is generational, or so I have read; it sounds logical and very sociological and academic and you know, who am I to argue a principle that was probably expounded on by someone with a PhD about how it's inevitable people are like this and this is how it will always be? Everything's eventual, the mills of the gods grind slowly, be patient because society as a whole is moving forward, slowly, and the individual has to face the potential of being a casualty.

Change is generational is academic for "wait for people to die" because the assumption is there is no other way, and I'm pretty sure there are statistics to back this up and therefore it must be true.

To codify, to embrace, the idea that it's easier to die than change says a lot, and none of it comforting, about how little potential we see in ourselves, how rigid we think we are, trapped in some kind of evolutionary psychology/sociological hell where progress is dependent on those who know perfectly well that all they have to do is be loud enough, rigid enough, difficult enough that they can hold up movement simply by standing still, because the casualties will never be their own.

I'm just saying, instead of waiting for them to drop in their tracks? Let's just move them out of the way. We'll get where we should be going a fuckload faster. Slavery ended because a civil war was preferable to waiting another century for society to catch up; ninety years ago, women got the right to vote after an epic and desperate effort by suffrage advocates to force through a goddamn Constitutional amendment because the slow way had sacrificed most of the women of Seneca Falls who died before they could claim to be owned by no one but themselves; less than sixty years ago, social revolution ripped through our country to bring about civil rights because in the hundred years since the end of slavery, we lost generations of men and women to poverty, inequality, and murder and not one more, not one should have to deal with that; do not tell me change is generational. Change is what happens when we stop waiting. We've had too many generations of casualties already; no one, no one should have it demanded of them to be a sacrifice to the idea the only way is to move slowly and they may be left behind.

The thing is, none of those are done; we're still fighting those battles, too, sacrifices to the altar of patience because things will change, just not yet.

It's just a yearbook, it's just a prom, it's just a word, it's just a job, it's just a school, it's just a difference in salary, it's not important, why are you making such a big deal about this, it's just amazon restricting GLBT books, it's just a con thing where you wear a button if you don't want your tits groped, it's just a novel that erases an entire people, it's just some guys exploiting women's sexuality in a survey, it's just a pronoun he/she/it why is that offensive, why are you upset, it's just a tv show, it's just a movie that's just fantasy, it's ironic, you're a credit to your..., stop whining and wait, things will change be patient, be patient, be patient, it's not a big deal. It's just, you know. Your life. Get used to it.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this generational thing? Is this supposed to be like, working? I'm just curious, is all.

So yeah. I'd like the luxury of preaching patience; it's so easy when you don't have anything to lose.

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Jesus, I am so glad my brother moved his family here--away from that frickin' state.

P.S. If you want a nice bit of the old ultraviolence to clean your palate, go see Kick Ass. :-)

I want to have an eloquent response to this, and all I can come up with is: IAWTP.

Holy shit, I cannot BELIEVE they did that. It's jaw-dropping in its petty maliciousness. WTF people.

I don't believe change is generational at all. My philosophy of teaching begins with Be the change you wish to see in the world.

To everyone that thinks It's just a yearbook, it's just a prom, it's just a word, it's just a job, it's just a school, it's just a difference in salary, it's not important, I want to say: Linda Brown was just a little third grade girl from Topeka, KS, and her father was just a parent who didn't understand why his daughter couldn't go to a school that was just 7 blocks away. And his courage to stand up instead of just getting used to it is the reason why we no longer have (legal) segregation in schools. Nothing is ever just anything- there is possibility in each moment.

Edited at 2010-04-28 02:33 am (UTC)

and this is why I do what I do.

Dude, seriously? That's pretty much all I can come up with at this point.

There is an incredibly high possibility that my 11 year old son is gay (and not just due to his love of feather boas and wanting to wear mommy's wedding dress or whipping his shirt off and screaming that he's a Lady Marmalade). Pretty much every day I am thankful that the majority of his friends and friends' parents are progressive enough to understand and be supportive. One parent even commented he and her own son make a cute couple and at least they would not be alone. Another frowned until their kid said, "It's just, [Youngest], come on," and then they relaxed. The one time either child has been picked on at school was not for Youngest's flamboyant tendencies, nor was it for both boys having two mommies - it was because they were on the chess team. (They subsequently pointed out they were both soccer players as well and amends were made, IDEK.)

Reading stuff like this makes me both fear for them when they are older, and be happy we seem to have a sort of protection, at least where we are now.

If it helps, your comment made me feel a lot better about the world--your son sounds ADORABLE.

That makes me feel sick, just in general.
I read this today (experiences of a journalist at a Christian gay-to-straight conversion camp): http://www.alternet.org/module/printversion/146557 and again felt equally ill at what people go through because of things like sexuality, gender, race, and disability. At some point, it seems like news like this should be expected, but somehow it never ceases to amaze me that there are people who think like this.

I love you and your shiny brain. I wish I could be half as coherent.

Dear Mississippi,


Every time I think of the state now, I think schoolyard bully.

So yeah. I'd like the luxury of preaching patience; it's so easy when you don't have anything to lose.

Thank you.

Jesus Fucking Christ, will these people ever stop? This is hideous. This is hideous. God, I honestly don't know what else to say.

I'd like the luxury of preaching patience; it's so easy when you don't have anything to lose. THIS.

You said it, hon. Every single word. So fucking true.

Lurker here. I'm a lesbian and I happened to read this right after one of my friends told me she was against same-sex marriage. She's het and married herself, but I didn't ask her why she thought it was all right for her to get married and not me. So, thank you so much for this, because 1) it really hit home for me and 2) it reminded me that it's not just about me and not just about gay rights - it's about everything that we need to fight to make better for women, POCs, etc.

Whaaaaaaaaaaat. What is that, I don't even. That is hideous. Is there a time machine somewhere in the state, or something? Because that is the only explanation I can think of that even vaguely makes sense of all this bullshit.