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meta rec - on rape and men by cereta
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On rape and men (Oh yes, I'm going there) by cereta on rape, culture, and being That Guy.

Reading both the essay and comments is the profound type of uncomfortable that always accompanies the moments that you see yourself.

I can't tell a story that hasn't been told a hundred times, and that's a story in itself--there's something I can't describe in the sheer mundanity of reading and saying, yes, yes, yes, that's me, that was me, that could have been me, that was my friend, my sister, my mother. It shouldn't be this common to be reminded how much I'm defined by what I carry between my legs.

There should be a difference between being an object and a woman; they aren't synonymous. Most days, I try to forget it's common to confuse the two. Usually, I can't.

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Um. I'm going to ask, because of anyone you'll have some idea - is this something I absolutely should read, or something I absolutely should not?

Wait and AIM me tonight? I'll give a highlights run.

Off the top of my head, I'd really think no, pending preparation, if that makes sense.

Haha oh well, read it anyway - because I am incapable of looking away.

But no, it was good. Am going to read the comments with the knowledge they may make me squirm.

(thank you tons, honey)

I got through a whole two pages of comments! \o/

And had a fight with a male friend over it, but that was probably easily foreseen - friend in question is much a second wave feminist while I'm a third and we've fought about that before, and he was basically saying he thinks that complimenting guys on not being dicks is dumb and doesn't see any other interpretation of that post.

But at least it wasn't that other fight one could have with a guy prompted by that post.

Thank you for the link. I feel like I should do a new post about my own thoughts / experiences / feelings on the topic, but... you know, after the last one's depth of scarring, maybe not so much. I don't know.

Thanks for the link. Some of the comments - of the "well, I have to protect the men in my life from any imputation that they could ever be rapists" were kind of ragifying, especially because, well, see the end of my comment here. But it's so incredibly important to discuss this stuff, and it was an amazing essay and a collection of amazing stories, so I'm very glad I clicked.

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