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Megan Meier
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Probably most people have already seen this story in the comms, but I read it three days ago and still get violently nauseated every time I remember it, so.

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A Real Person, a Real Death

From the article:

Megan went to her room and Ron went downstairs to the kitchen, where he and Tina talked about what had happened, the MySpace account, and made dinner.

Twenty minutes later, Tina suddenly froze in mid-sentence.

"I had this God-awful feeling and I ran up into her room and she had hung herself in the closet."

Megan Taylor Meier died the next day, three weeks before her 14th birthday.

Later that day, Ron opened his daughter's MySpace account and viewed what he believes to be the final message Megan saw - one the FBI would be unable to retrieve from the hard drive.

It was from Josh and, according to Ron's best recollection, it said, "Everybody in O'Fallon knows how you are. You are a bad person and everybody hates you. Have a shitty rest of your life. The world would be a better place without you."

Short version: thirteen year old girl and best friend break up. Thirteen year old girl meets boy on myspace. Thirteen year old girl and boy become friends. Thirteen year old girl and boy talk. Boy starts to send unpleasant messages. Boy becomes cruel. Thirteen year old girl with a history of known depression kills herself. Boy turns out to be an imaginary construct of the parents of the broken-up-with best friend.

Parents, adults that knew this girl and how to fuck with her.

Quoting from many someone's--what the hell is wrong with people?

More Links

1. Mom: Web Hoax Led Girl to Kill Herself

2. Net hoax turns deadly, turns town against neighbors

From the article:

Tina and Ron Meier, who have separated since Megan's death, said they hope there will be a prosecution. In the meantime, Tina Meier said, they will push for a new law "to get justice for Megan."

In the absence of legal action, frustration is building online.

"Make them accountable. Anonymity should be awarded to victims, not to people who torment the helpless," wrote one reader in a posting on the Suburban Journals Web site.

"This family that perpetrated this prank is just EVIL ... Please move," read another.

"To the parents who did this to Megan, you're monsters. You are not welcome in our community. Leave now," read another.

3. Story of Girls' Suicide Takes New Life Online

4. Blog Readers Out Anonymous Adults that Newspaper Refused to Identify

From the article:

It turns out that Evans was a pseudonym created by two adults -- one of whom knew the Meier family very well. The St. Charles Journal decided to protect the privacy of the two adults and declined to name them in the story. That didn't sit well with incensed readers, who tracked down what they say is the identity of one of the adults and posted it online. Now the paper is being criticized for giving the adults anonymity.

You know. The oldest way society has to deal with people we can't kill or throw in jail is shunning. Jesus, if there was ever a textbook case for it, this would be it.

I would do some kind of meta on this, but honestly, it would be crappy because I can't see past the sheer horror of an adult--not just a parent, but any adult--doing this to a child. Doing this to a child they know. Doing this to a child they know and was friends with their daughter. I can't even get past the mental wtf of incomprehension of vendetta on a thirteen year old girl.

Mostly, it comes from a weird sense of--crazy, I know--proportional response. And this pesky set of ethics that come along with being human and not being a sociopath. There's not even a *whisper* of some kind of half-assed excuse--though seriously, I'm waiting for the Drews clever explanation.

Let's pick our top five choices for Why We Stalked a Depressed Thirteen Year Old Girl LOL:

Anyone think they'll go for e? I'm thinking combo a/d.

ETA: More links to further information on Megan Meier via google news.

oh my god.

I can't believe that. Rather, I don't want to believe that. I don't want to believe that there are people in this world who would do something like that to a thirteen year old girl.

that, that just hurts my heart.

I really, really didn't want to. I read the first article several times just to absorb it, then googled and did some blog-hopping tonight, hoping it would turn out to be a lot less--well, a lot less insane. But not so much with less insane, but a lot more with utterly shock.

I really do not have words to convey my disgust that there are people in this world that would do such a thing to a child...

It's--yeah. I keep hoping something will come up to mitigate, but honestly, I can't see how anything *can*. I don't want to believe people are this utterly lost to basic humanity, but you know, wanting it doesn't make it true.

I can't even get past the mental wtf of incomprehension of vendetta on a thirteen year old girl.

You and me both. What. The. Fuck.


Also, I'm guessing e will pop up. Because they totally are.

I hate using that word, but honestly, I can't think of another one that fits this kind of mentality. The planning that went into this, effort for a sockpuppet to get a young girl's confidence, and then work on her known mental instabilities (teenagers are already at a disadvantage emotionally, compound it with her known depression, God), and then socialize with the family after her death? I can't even comprehend that.

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*sighs* The cheerleader thing was in Texas, too. Trust me, it was not that much of a stretch in football country for someone to pull something like that. *twitch* Horrific.

Okay, I thought you were going to say the boy on MySpace turned out to be the ex-friend, which would be totally understandable. Still a horrible end that this girl ended up killing herself, but I can totally see a kid doing that to get back at someone.

Me too. I thought at worst that it was kids doing it and the parents had just, you know, turned the other way and put it down to kids being kids crap. The punchline on that one was surreal--I think I read back twice just to be sure I'd read it correctly.

There are no words. "Oh my god" barely begins to express it.

It's really just--incomprehensible at first read. Like a very very bad made for tv drama or something. Gah.

This is disgusting. I don't even have any words for this kind of behaviour.

*nods* I can't even figure out how they justified it to themselves. Sure, you are hurt for your kid for whatever. You take her to dinner and talk to her. Not, you know, rain down freaking homicidal vengeance.

Whenever I was in an argument with a friend my mom hugged me and let me cry on her shoulder if I wanted, but she never even said a thing about the friend I was arguing with.

This whole thing is just disgusting. I can't even imagine why adults would think that is okay behaviour. They are just sick, sick people.

Whenever I was in an argument with a friend my mom hugged me and let me cry on her shoulder if I wanted, but she never even said a thing about the friend I was arguing with.

Yes! My mom like, made me cookies and let me cry and told me it would get better and I'd find new friends etc etc etc. I seriously cannot imagine, even with Child (who *was* bullied badly a few years back and I had to contact the school), going to this.

It just makes no sense to me that anyone goes from "young teenage girls have a falling out" to "let's emotionally damage one of them". Hell, both girls; how the *hell* is the Drew daughter going to be able to deal with this?

You know, I'm still thinking about that part.

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I don't get how this isn't harassment, to be honest. Granted, I am no lawyer nor play one on TV, but wow.

I just.../Jesus/. This is beyond comprehension. How could any adult do this to a /child/? My God. And what is this woman teaching her own daughter? Christ. I think of someone doing this to one of my children, and I just want to /shake/ this woman until she sees the part she played in causing the death of a /child/.

Yes. Exactly.

It's honestly just so far out there that it seems impossible that any sane parent would think this was a good idea. It doesn't even compute.

What the fuck is wrong with people? Doing something like that, something so studiously cruel... it's beyond comprehension.

*nods* Yeah. Just--no words on that one. Or at least, all the words I can come up with tend to be various sounds of shock and horror.

Jesus, I have no idea what the world is coming to but this story made me incandescent with fury and desperately sad. Poor little lost girl


I'm just incoherent about the parents' role in this, and boggling that adults would believe the appropriate response to 'my daughter's best friend has broken up with her' is to torture and humiliate the other child. I just - I'm reeling.

But it rips my fucking heart out to think of that poor little overweight ugly duckling of a kid. I mean, what, the world isn't cruel enough? It's not hard enough dealing with hormones and bullying and feeling shit about yourself, everyone comparing your appearance to that of the skinny icons of teen perfection? It's not enough to cope with the casual viciousness of high school? You're supposed to brace yourself for the possibility that adults you know and trust ARE COLDLY SETTING OUT TO DECEIVE YOU, BREAK YOUR FUCKING HEART AND HUMILIATE YOU?

Jesus. I don't know about you, but I had a fairly horrendous time being a teenager. I mean, yes, sure I was happy and friendly and passionately engaged with books and my studies, but I was also wretched about my appearance and my gaucheness and filled with self-loathing and awkwardness and all that painful cliched crap. Being a teen is pretty fucking agonising all on its own - but then this? It blows my MIND. I want to beat them with fucking bricks. They fail at life.

If this isn't child abuse, what the hell is it?

How is it possible that their daughter is still in their care?

That totally puts any other online idiocy - I was having a discussion about the dynamics of F_W earlier - into perspective. Harshly. *shudders*

*shakes head* It's just a brand new level of batshit there.

I'm with you on the shunning; no words, no direct ugliness or harassment - just turn your back whenever they appear. I've been so upset since I read this and I keep thinking about Megan's parents and about this Lori (or Lorie) Drew person and wondering what kind of person she is. What kind of mother that she could do that to a child. It's beyond my comprehension.

I love that idea. Shunning. Simple, legal, effective. They don't *exist*.

I am really pissed that there are the adults are not being charged. I think this whole situation is absolutely sick.

*nods* I wish there were something. Anything.

Dear God, that poor child, and those poor parents. Incomprehensible is a good word for it. I'm still sitting here just shaking my head with tears in my eyes.


Indeed, that one I can see--and people eventually doing just that. A little fireside chat on a newsmag, some tissues, baby pictures; a conversion, perhaps, and oh, the error of our ways as we see it now...

I sometimes imagine that public stocks and pillories should still be an option in corrections. Not a kind thought, but it's there right now.

With stuff like this? Yeah, the thought is there.

I totally see them pulling something like that.